What is a GRUB?

Ever been called a "grub" before, and not known how to react? Well, hopefully not. But if so, it is a word that is definitely not a compliment. Made famous by the legendary Geoffrey Leonard in his Australia TV YouTube interview, many Americans were left scratching their heads as to what it actually meant.

After doing research through numerous dictionaries, my favorite definitions for grub were:

1) A thick bodied, sluggish larvae of several insect
2) A dull, unkempt plodding person; drudge
3) A person that tries to get things by freeloading

Though none of these describe Geoffrey Leonard very well, (what ONE word can??) definition number two is the one that is most commonly used in Europe, and is the one I have recently been using to describe a surprisingly high number of people.

There are many GRUBS out there, so be on the look out! And feel free to post a picture of your favorite grub in the comment section!

Lastly, NEVER find yourself being a GRUB!

Playing Your Part (Role) In Life

After deep thought and careful consideration, I have realized that there are roles for everyone in the game that we call "Life." The truth is, it all boils down to ROLES or PARTS of the whole (Act, or Play). I realized this when I decided I would get my brother, who is an accomplished actor, to act differently in the mall. I encouraged him to speak with a foreign accent.

It was interesting in that he was able to free himself from his normal role, and act totally different. I have found that this is especially great when you are caught in a pattern of behavior that is not serving you and you want to change. When you play a character who you do not associate with yourself, you in essence give yourself permission to do what you want to do freely.

Now, in playing your part or role in life, you must decide who you want to be. The more specific you are about props, mannerisms, and surroundings the better. You must take these all in consideration as you are the director & actor, and must set the scene for your play. Once you have decided these, you must then write down specific statements that remind you of the specific details about your character and surroundings, as well as interactions with other characters, etc. Once you have done this, you must visualize how the play will look when you are performing it flawlessly. You must continue to do this until your visualization becomes reality.

Play your part in life. Simple as that.

Escaping Scarcity Mentality

I have noticed in my college years especially, and somewhat after wards, that at times it is easy to slip into a scarcity mentality. A scarcity mentality is basically a mentality in which you believe there is not enough, and you cannot have whatever it is that you want because of this. It also, as a negative side effect, causes you to become a selfish person and hold on to everything you have. The reason behind this is that you believe there is not enough for everyone, so you must keep yours, and as an effect not help anyone else.

For a large part of my life, I held a scarcity mentality in my beliefs for many aspects and areas in my life. It was only in watching the movie, "The Secret", that I realized how ignorant and non-serving this belief was to me.

Since then, I have compared scarcity and abundance to the RAIN. When it rains, it rains on everyone (in a specific geographical area, of course). However, though it rains more in some climates than others, it always takes care of EVERYONE. There is always enough rain to keep everyone and everything healthy in most climates. If you were really thirsty, and the rain was pure enough to drink, you could leave your empty cup out, wait till it was filled up, then drink it when it is hot and sunny, and then pray for more rain. This helped me understand that the talk of the doomed economy and the lack of money out there were ridiculous.

So the question is: How can you put yourself in a climate to get rained on, to fill your cup? The best way is to bless the lives of others by pouring out of yourself your abilities and talents. This is the fastest and most effective way. What are you good at? What is it that you enjoy doing, that you would do for FREE anyway? These are the things you should focus on.

This will help you escape from the desert of scarcity mentality, and into the rainforest jungle of Wealth Attraction.

Is the United States headed from Capitalistic to Socialism?

I have been keeping up with the news lately regarding United States health care reform, that, in my opinion, must happen in some way.

However, the way that Barack Obama is looking to reform it, is not the correct way. From my understanding, he is lobbying to pass the bill that will allow many people that cannot afford health insurance and health care assistance from the government. He is also lobbying to not allow insurance companies to deny anyone insurance that applies.

Both of these ideas are ridiculous. From my viewpoint, and it has been this way before Obama was even elected, I believe he is looking to turn the United States of America from a Capitalistic society to a Socialist society and government. This is a HUGE mistake that will, if successful, mark the end of the United States as the world's leading power.

Why? Because, the fact is, this country was started by strong willed men that came from Europe to start their own society that was more free, and that would offer the opportunity to anyone that wanted to be anything. This is commonly labeled "The American Dream." This idea and the constitution and government worked for several years, because everyone DID THEIR PART! Simple enough, right?

Fast forward to today, and you see that virtually all of the problems facing our once great nation are caused by the WEAK, HANGERS-ON of society that don't do their part. That means all of the able bodied men and women out there that do not work by choice and collect welfare and unemployment checks. Also, all of the people out there that irresponsibly have a bunch of kids that they can't take care of, and require government assistance to do so. Also, giving unfair racial treatment by means of Affirmative Action in a so-called "Post-Racial Society."

All of these problems began before Obama was elected, granted. But when he spoke of CHANGE, I'm not sure that Americans knew what he was speaking of. Surely the heralded, well-spoken Illinois senator was speaking of ELIMINATING these types of problems, not coming in and passing the Health Care Reform to further perpetuate them!

The idea of taking from the rich and giving to the poor sounds great in "Robin Hood," where the nobility of England is thriving, while the average peasant and citizen are barely surviving. However, this is a fictional FAIRYTALE, and it is not based in reality, especially when relating to a Capitalistic Government and Society like the United States, where many of the millionaires and billionaires of our society were not born into wealth. Rather, they were SELF-MADE! By taking more from these people to give to people that are not contributing in some way to society is totally backward. These are the people that are making the United States the great nation that it is in the first place! Socialism is the biggest mistake we could ever make, in that we are now punishing success and achievement, versus rewarding those that contribute in a large way to society with "The American Dream."

If our nation continues on this path much longer, I will began looking to other nations to apply for citizenship. Any other smart and hard working individual out there should take this to heart.

Is It Possible For A True Post-Racial Society To Exist?

I was reading an article in the New York Times earlier today regarding Meb Keflezighi's New York City Marathon win Sunday. Here is a link: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/33603511/ns/us_news-the_new_york_times/

Meb is the first American to win the race since 1982. His win has sparked some controversy in that he is a naturalized American citizen, and was actually born in Eritrea, where he lived until he was 12 years old. Many Americans do not consider Meb a "real" American because of this fact, as well as his name (in my opinion).

The article mentions that many people believe we now live in a Post-Racial society now that we have an African-American president in Barack Obama. This statement piqued my interest. My question is: Is it even POSSIBLE for a true post-racial society to even exist?

In my opinion, with the current evolution of human beings' minds, this is not possible. The reason being, people are always judged by appearance. Although the popular saying "Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover" has been embraced by religious groups, the truth is, this is literally impossible, unless you are BLIND.

You can't help but to see the color of someone's skin when you meet them. You can't help but tell things about them like how they dress, how they speak, their body language, etc. It is an evolved trait human beings have learned in order to quickly read other people and assess any and every situation accordingly. Now what you do with this information that you pick up is up to you. But most use it in a judgmental way about the other person, and respond accordingly, even if it is completely inaccurate.

For instance, you could do a social experiment of the same person dressing two different ways, and judging how they are treated. A person that is dressed high class, generally is treated high class, and a person that is dressed low class, is generally treated this way. Unfortunately, stereotypes about races go along these lines as well.

Another reason I believe a post-racial society is not possible at our mind's current evolution is that people generally hire and are friends with people that are like them, and share multiple commonalities with. People also trust people that share commonalities with them as well. The point of this reasoning for people is that they are able to relax and be in their comfort zones more when they have this level of trust based on commonalities and similarities with other people.

In closing, it is my opinion that as long as separate "races" of people exist, as we know them now, it is IMPOSSIBLE for us to live in a post-racial society because each race is thinking in its own self-interest. The first step in changing this thinking is to take away all of the rules that exist that give certain races preferential treatment, such as affirmative action, and put everyone on a equal playing ground.. More on this issue to come.

Why You Should Dress Like It's Halloween All The Time

So today is one of my absolute FAVORITE days of the entire year.. Halloween! With Halloween comes some exciting things, parades, people dressed up in all kinds of weird costumes, cool pumpkins carving, trick or treating, and my own personal favorite, girls dressed in skimpy outfits!

I recently had the realization, after cutting my hair into a mullet last week, that you can dress and do damn near ANYTHING in our society today and it is really NO BIG DEAL to other people.

I figured, with my outrageous hairstyle (in my opinion), that I would have had some type of reactions from people. Not that I did it for attention, but for my own personal amusement. I just figured it was inevitable. Well, the fact is, I have gotten a couple of looks from strangers, but beyond that, the people I already knew and interact with on a daily basis acted like they didn't even notice!

Which brings me to the point: You should dress outrageous yet interesting (in your own way and personal style) all the time! Why? The biggest reason is it will help you stand out from the crowd. Who wants to look like everybody else?? The second reason is, by standing out more and being CONFIDENT and COOL about it, people put you on a pedestal as having high value to be able to do this. Now mind you, this isn't about being over the top and wearing a Superman costume all the time (but that would be kinda cool), it is more wearing interesting, yet unusual things all the time.

Can't think of any good ideas? Look no further than your modern day Rapper. These guys are most of the time poor guys coming from nothing to something that want EVERYBODY to know how rich they are. They drive cool cars with GIGANTIC rims, have enormous chains and bling, even grills! It seems like the more outrageous they are, the better they are at rapping and getting attention.

Now I am not saying you should try to become a rapper, but one thing you could do, that I successfully did myself, is wear interesting yet somewhat unusual pieces of jewelry. It is an easy conversation starter for other people to talk to you. An example of what I did was get a necklace of my favorite animal, the Tiger. On any day, I will usually have about 3-5 people, mostly women, approach me about this! Another thing I would suggest is a large, interesting ring. I have my track and field conference championship ring from college that looks like a superbowl ring. I have had several people ask me about it, especially after I shake hands with them.

The last suggestion here to to add interesting pieces to your wardrobe, especially for your work. Most people will have something cool to wear for a night out on the town, but for work dress generic like everyone else. You can't get promoted and be the boss if you are like everyone else! Wear clothes that help you stand out, but still are professional. Interesting colors or threads are a start.

Have a fun Halloween! And never stop giving yourself permission to dress for success EVERYDAY.

How To Build A Strong "Party"

Do you ever find yourself wondering how you ending up with friends like the ones you have, or girlfriend or wife? Relationships are hard to understand for most people at times.

This morning, as I was doing my usual morning walk at 6 AM, I begin thinking about my current relationships and came to the realization that your relationships are a reflection of your inner qualities that you admire, or those that you want to have and admire. To help this sink in, let's view an example. Say you are a funny guy most of the time that also has a serious side. Chances are, you have a friend that is funnier or equally as funny as you (your personal opinion, of course), and a friend that is more serious than you are. These people in your life reinforce those traits to make your personality stronger. Whenever you need to get in touch with one side of your personality more, you pay more attention to the friend that provides that.

About the traits that you want to have that you admire, say you want to become really muscular. So you go to the gym and meet the most muscular guy in the gym and also hang out with him in order to get in touch with that. You will probably not be as good of a friend with this guy, simply because what he provides to you is not that large or valuable, unless you are wanting to be a pro bodybuilder.

As far as relationships with the opposite sex, there are usually two circumstances. Either A) a person mates with a person that looks like them, and is very similar to them in most ways, and maybe at best has a few qualities they admire and want. This, in my opinion, is the weakest form of a relationship, because the charges between the two are too similar. B) The two are complete opposites in most ways, but they complete each other. Many people seem to think that means that one person is a positive person and the other a negative. That is not at all what this means. A good example would be a person that is a really hard worker, and is serious all the time. This is a positive trait. A good mate for them would be someone that is more laid back, but is able to have a fun, great time at will. These two would be so-called opposite charges, but would make sense because they would enter each other's sphere of influence, and would therefore bring them both more towards the center of polarity. The hard worker would still work hard, but would be able to now have a good time, and therefore get more done when they work. The laid back person would still be able to have a good time, but would now also work harder and be more goal oriented. This is a great balance of energy, magnetism, and polarity.

So in short, it is best to make friends, or a "party" so to speak, of friends, that you can help become the best they can be, and they can return the favor. A video game example would be getting a party on Final Fantasy of Warriors, and Black and White Wizards/Mages. Although all of these guys are very different from one another, together they complete each other and are able to accomplish missions and their ultimate quest.

Overriding Your Emotions

I was reading the great book Psycho-Cybernetics yesterday when I stumbled upon a passage that inspired me very much. It talks about a man named Bertrand Russell that was a very unhappy child because of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions he focused on all of the time.

He eventually came across Psycho-Cybernetics as a grown man, and had the sudden realization that if he challenged his emotions, which were an effect of his irrational beliefs that he held, he could then change his results and uproot the beliefs and emotions permanently. He stated that every time he felt an emotion from doing something he knew was right, but his emotions told him was wrong, he confronted these emotions head on and rejected them. According to him, this changed his life DRAMATICALLY!

I can see this exercise as being useful to all of us, as we all operate within some form of limiting beliefs all the time. Override the emotions and confront the emotion/belief head on. Doing this will get you the results you want in life!

Positive Feeling (Constructive) VS Negative Feeling (Destructive)

Your life is always going one of two ways, either up or down. This is a figure of speech, of course, but by up or down, I mean up is an upward spiral of positivity which breeds creativity and positive construction. The opposite of this is down, which is a downward spiral of negativity which breeds lack and scarcity and destruction of the life you have.

Obviously, to be successful you want to stay POSITIVE all the time, no matter how great or terrible your circumstances may seem to be at the time. There are billionaires that commit suicide or destruct their lives from the inside out, such as Howard Hughes, one of the richest and most successful men of the early 20th century. His negative beliefs on the inside led him to destruct himself and his world on the outside. That is an example of the negativity we want to stay away from.

A great example of positivity would be Helen Keller, who was both blind and deaf from a disease at a young age! Most people discounted her for being a lost cause because of her disability. Helen could have taken this negativity and self-destructed her life. But somehow, from within, she held a gleaming light of positivity and went on to earn a college degree and become an advocate and leader for people with disabilities and many other causes!

NOTHING can stop a POSITIVE mind on a clear MISSION. Put these two together and you will accomplish whatever you want in life. Just remember to always include helping others out along the way to your success, and you will be doubly blessed for it.

Why A "Make Sure" List Is VITAL To Success & Being Effective

I have always heard my whole life that you should make a list for everyday of things you need to do if you want to be successful. Otherwise, you will forget the small things, and be too lazy to complete the tough ones. It is much easier to do it all, or as much as you can, if you have a list you can cross items off of.

My mother is an expert at being effective. I have never seen another person that makes a full page or longer list EVERYDAY, and doesn't quit until every item has been checked off. Most people simply do not have the discipline or will power to do this. In her words, you have to be "Mentally Tough!"

I had not realized how much improvement you see in your effectiveness until I started doing this myself. I started with a grocery list, and that went well. Then I started making a list of things I had to make sure that I got done everyday, my "Make Sure" List, and not quitting until I checked every item off. This is an interesting experiment, and I guarantee you, if you implement this, you will be AMAZED at your results in a short amount of time.

The reason? Simply because, most people don't do this. The majority of people might have an agenda for the day, but will come up with an EXCUSE to not do the tough things on their list, if they made one in the first place. This also causes you to be much more ORGANIZED. Having a list causes you to have to keep FOCUSED all day, effectively eliminating time wasters such as TV, Social Media (Following other people on Facebook, Myspace, or Twitter=Complete waste of time), so on and so forth.

By making a thorough Make Sure List every day, and checking off ALL of the items with as few exceptions as humanly possible, you can be sure that you will reach your goal while living your dream in no time!

LIFE Is A Really Easy Game!

Tonight I went down 6th Street by myself for the first time in a little bit to go check out a few different venues that some of my business partners were throwing parties at. Because I recently wiped out some REALLY stupid limiting beliefs, mainly that I am not good enough for ____, and I don't know what to say to meet new people, I am now completely absolved and can do what I did tonight--> Take 6th street over!!

So I show up at several different bars, and there are girls EVERYWHERE in the street! I decide to talk to the hottest ones I see and reinforce that it doesn't matter what you say, it's how you say it and your conviction to get you results in life. So I proceed to get several multiple sets of women to follow me to clubs. This was an amazing and eye-opening social experiment to me. I decided that I would then forget about THINKING and being in my HEAD when I am out in public. THAT is my worst enemy. Just FLOW and have POSITIVE emotions, a good time!

I laughed really hard when I realized that is what life is really all about! Choosing a direction to go in, and ENJOYING the journey! I had girls I talked to tonight act like their shit didn't stink. But that is funny to me, because it shows me they are not cool enough to be WHO THEY REALLY ARE in real life! If they were, they would be cool and not worry about what's going on at night. At a random club. In Austin, Texas. That is retarded!

The game of Life is very, very, very, very SIMPLE! Fears and anxieties that people place upon themselves are LAUGHABLE at best. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Conquer the fear of death and everything else is a cakewalk! Say to yourself everyday, "What could I be doing right now to get closer to my goal?" And then do that!

The game of LIFE is ridiculously easy. I know it. You know it. NOW PLAY!

You're An Idiot If You Don't Go For What You Want In Life

My younger brother, Troy, is the BEST voice actor I have ever heard. He can hear someone talk, and do an amazing impersonation of them in no time. Troy can watch a cartoon & sound exactly like any of the bad guys you can choose.

Yet, Troy is 20 years old, currently living with my parents, and is enrolling in college for who knows what this Fall. I just have one question.. WHY??

Troy is not an unusual example. There are all kinds of people out there that have AMAZING talent, but for whatever reason, do something else! What the hell!

The New Testament has a parable from the great teacher Jesus that talks about talents. One person gets 5 from their master, another 3, and another just 1. The one that got 5 returns with 5 more, the one with 3 returns with 3 in addition, and then the 1 with the one returns with ONLY his 1 that his master gave him. When asked why he didn't add any more talents using the one he had, the servant replied that he buried his talent because he was TOO SCARED he might lose it! The master then says "Go away from me wicked and evil servant"

People that bury their talents in this life and don't go for their dreams, for whatever reason or EXCUSE they may have, need to be PUNISHED. Better yet, KILLED.

What is the point of BEING ALIVE if you don't go for your dreams and complete your objectives to get there? Life is just a 3D RPG (Role Playing Game) in real life. A few years ago, Electronic Arts came out with a game called "The Sims." In this game, you have characters that create their lives as they want to live. All this is is a simulation of REAL LIFE! Decide how you want your life to be & go for it. Anyone that DOESN'T do that needs to sacrifice their life and JUMP OFF A CLIFF so that their spirit & energy can go to someone on this earth that is going for their dreams.

Mental Masturbation: The Leading Cause of Pre-Mature Death In The World

Mental. Masturbation. Two words that by themselves have meaning, but put together mean something so tragic, it has literally killed millions.

"What?" You exclaim. "What is mental masturbation? No WAY it has killed that many people!"

Of course, I mean figuratively, not literally. But mental masturbation started in the new era of technology. When people starting WATCHING. The biggest culprit: TV!

Before TV, people would listen to a radio for games & shows, and be mildly entertained for a short period of time WEEKLY. Television came around, and by the 1960's was making its impact in society by providing news segments and regular television shows. This, to a point, was good for people, as they were able to temporarily take time out of their lives to see what was going on the world, and when they would be able to see the occasional sports game. BUT, the problem began when people began to watch TV all day, sitting on their ass in a daze, flipping from channel to channel. More recently, REALITY TV has shown that people's lives are so pointless that they would rather stop what they are doing and watch T.O. (Terrell Owens) live his daily life.

The widespread use of the INTERNET hasn't helped mental masturbation much either. People literally surf the web, and FOLLOWING people on Twitter, Facebook, or Myspace, seeing what other people are up to while doing nothing valuable with their own lives. Some take it a step further, particularly men, who not only MENTALLY but PHYSICALLY masturbate while viewing pornographic material online. Unfortunately, neither of these things will get you anywhere in life.

Mental masturbation is when you think about things in your mind with no real intention of bringing those thoughts to REALITY. It has killed the wonderful brains of so many people who could be changing the world, the figure is ridiculously high. People living in a WALKING DAZE, pleased with watching others live their dreams and fantasies. President Barack Obama preaches that America needs CHANGE. The Change we need is for people to stop MENTALLY MASTURBATING about others lives and LIVE YOUR DREAM! That will take care of the deficit this country is facing. Who cares what TO or the Celebrity Fit Club, or The Real World, or Paris Hilton is up to today?? Who cares about Ashton Kutcher's latest twitter update?

I am leading the army of people that are too busy living their dream, getting success or die trying, to give a damn about anything else! Join US or die a long, slow death.

I am now off my soapbox. Comment away.

Why I Deleted My Facebook & Myspace

"Social Media's a waste of time for you
You've got much better things with your life to do
You can go outside & change the world
And be the HERO that gets the girl" Lyrics by Trey Thomason

So I have deleted my Myspace & Facebook for about a week now.. What a relief!

I have had a lot of people ask me about why I did it, what was my purpose.
Facebook & Myspace for me were wastes of time. I joined at first as a way to keep up with old friends back in 2005. Then, I found myself adding people I didn't know, people I didn't know adding me, and me wasting time looking at people's pages & pictures all the time.

The low point for me came whenever I would invite people to events on Facebook. A lot of my friends on there would write on the Event wall their excuses for why they couldn't go. WHO CARES THAT YOU CAN'T GO! The whole point of putting the event on facebook is to PROMOTE it for people that CAN go, and that is who should be writing on the event wall!

The other part of the low point was that I would have literally HUNDREDS of people confirmed for parties, events, etc, then I would only get a FRACTION of that number actually there. LAME.

The final part of the low point is two fold: First, people would add me on Facebook that I didn't know in real life, or at least didn't know very well. Then these people would meet me in real life, or talk to me if they had previously known me, and not act very friendly! I don't get it. If you're not my friend in real life, don't be my friend on facebook. DUH. The other part of that is people from my past or others adding me actively following my pictures and posts, and making judgements about me, but never actually talking to me or interacting with me about any of it. Just didn't make any sense to me.

I was going to my brother Trent's facebook one day when I realized it no longer existed. He deleted his page. When I asked him about it, he mentioned many of the same reasons I did previously. He also said he was "cutting away all the fat" from his life. Getting rid of all the excuses for not being successful and living his dream. This inspired me, and about a week later, mine was gone as well.

Maybe your social media pages (Facebook, Myspace, Twitter) are not major time wasters or do not cause you the issues they caused me. If that's the case, great. But I know for some people that is a big one. If it is not helping you, stop today. GET RID OF IT! Everyone has areas they can work on to improve their lives. Cut out the fat out of your life and live your dream!